My partner leaves me feeling constantly on edge - walking on eggshells - for fear that saying or doing the wrong thing will elicit a severe reaction.ġ9. My partner seems to have two distinct reputations, with some people singing their praises and others warning you about their behaviour.ġ8. in ways that I would not like to be treated.ġ7. My partner treats other neutral individuals of my gender whom they encounter in an incidental fashion - e.g., waiters or waitresses, shop clerks, etc. My partner tells stories about their past in which they have been violent, aggressive, or insensitive to others.ġ6. My friends and family have indicated to me that they don’t like the way my partner treats me.ġ5. My partner seems to feel entitled to have whatever it is they desire.ġ4. My partner tries to convince me that I am not quite good enough, or that I am lucky to have someone who will tolerate a person like me.ġ3. My partner calls me names or verbally attacks me in public.ġ2. My partner checks up on my activities, keeping track of where I go and who I am with.ġ1. My partner discourages me from pursuing outside interests, unless they accompany me.ġ0. My partner panics at any indication we might break up.ĩ. My partner blames me for their anger or their inappropriate behaviour and avoids taking responsibility for their own actions.Ĩ. My partner cycles between being ‘mean’ and being ‘sweet’ to me.ħ. My partner has tried to reduce or eliminate my contact with other friends and/or family.Ħ. My partner chips away at my confidence, putting me down and correcting my slightest mistakes.ĥ. My partner ‘blows up’ or very rapidly gets angry, subseqeuntly engaging in dangerous behaviours like driving too fast, breaking things, or threatening other people.Ĥ.
My partner professed their love for me and their intention to make a lifelong commitment to me within 4 weeks of dating.ģ.
My partner has physically hurt me on purpose. Please also check our disclaimer on psychological testing and our psychological testing privacy guarantee.ġ. Please note: This test will only be scored correctly if you answer each one of the questions.
(Please be sure to check the Additional Information and Note on Validity below.) Take the Relationship Quiz The items refer to your experience of your partner’s behaviour during your relationship. To take the questionnaire, please click the radio button next to the selection which best reflects how each statement applies to you. This quiz is intended to help you become aware of aspects of your relationship experiences which Dr Carver has associated with hurtful relationships and potentially, at particularly high levels, with the types of abuse sometimes linked to personality disorders. The 20-question “True Love or True Loser?” relationship quiz is inspired by Dr Joseph Carver’s famous article “ Are You Dating a Loser? Identifying Losers, Controllers and Abusers” and has been co-authored by Dr Carver.